If you're having trouble getting pregnant, you know that infertility can turn your life upside-down. Fortunately, there are many coping strategies that can help make this challenging time a little easier for you and your partner. Support groups, exercise, healthy distractions, and saying no to certain events are just a few of the ways of coping with infertility. Read on to learn more.
Dealing With the Whys of Infertility
Why is this happening to me? Am I not good enough to be a mom? What did I do to deserve this? The questions of why you have to go through infertility can be all-consuming to many women who travel this road. It can be a dark and lonely road, filled with grief, anger, denial, jealousy, and desperation. This roller coaster of emotions can reach the extremes on a monthly basis as women try to become pregnant each month -- tracking daily temperatures, ovulation peaks, and then the long and dreaded two-week wait that can be excruciating.
In these tough days, the stress and waiting can be tortuous. Even simply being around other women who have children can cause feelings of jealousy, followed by feelings of guilt and shame that you are feeling that way. The domino effect of emotions can cause many women to isolate themselves, leading to a downward spiral of depression.
For these women, we are going to give some suggestions on how to find hope in each day and ways to cope. Taking it one day at a time and using coping mechanisms can help to alleviate the infertility stress.
What's the First Step?
Regardless of your cause of infertility, it is likely that you will experience those times where just surviving through the day seems unbearable. The first step in dealing with infertility is to learn ways to handle the emotional ups and downs. This can be one of the most difficult challenges women face. This may be the first time you have ever experienced some of these emotions, and not knowing how to handle them can make it seem like an impossible situation.
But try to take a deep breath -- learning how to deal with your emotions can help you regain your self-esteem and positive outlook. Let's start by looking at some of the emotions you may experience and some ways to help deal with them.
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